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June 23rd, 2024, Lead Pastor Andrew McLean.
Introduction
Welcome to our continuing series, Raising Godly Kids in a Messed-Up World. Today, we're diving into the profound responsibility we have as parents to give our children the very best, in alignment with God's teachings.
The Desire to Give the Best
Every parent in this room wants to provide their children with the best possible life. Jesus himself acknowledged this in Matthew 7:11, "So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good gifts to those who ask him." We start with great intentions but often find ourselves worn out by the demands of daily life.
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Consider a family with multiple children. With the first child, parents meticulously clean a fallen pacifier. By the time the third child arrives, the pacifier might just be licked off and given back. This humorous progression highlights how our standards can drop as we grow tired.
The Trap of Seeking Happiness
In our quest to make our children happy, we often go to great lengths—enrolling them in the best schools, buying trendy clothes, and getting the latest gadgets. However, we must ask ourselves: What if these gifts harm rather than help our children? We must focus less on today's happiness and more on preparing them for tomorrow's challenges.
When Giving Hurts
1. Giving Unearned Rewards
From a young age, we often give children what they haven't earned, whether it's a toy to stop a tantrum or participation trophies. This fosters an entitlement mindset. It's crucial to let children earn their rewards, such as doing chores before playing video games or saving for a car.
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In our home, our adult children can stay for free if they save a portion of their earnings. If they choose not to, they contribute to the household expenses. This policy isn't about taking their money but teaching responsibility and self-sufficiency.
2. Giving Undeserved Praise
While we love to build our children's self-worth, overpraising can be detrimental. Telling them they're the best when they might not be creates unrealistic expectations and anxiety. Instead, we should praise the effort and character demonstrated in their achievements.
Illustration
In high school, I was known as a "good boy," but this label created pressure to maintain an image that wasn't always true. This led to internal conflict and a sense of inadequacy.
3. Giving Too Much Freedom Too Soon
We often protect children from physical dangers but overlook the risks of digital freedom. Giving a child unrestricted access to the internet can expose them to harmful content and social pressures they're not ready to handle.
Building a Strong Foundation
Our ultimate goal is to prepare our children to be faithful to God in a complex world. The Bible provides clear guidance in Deuteronomy 6:4-9, emphasizing the importance of teaching God's commandments and integrating them into daily life.
Three Essential Gifts for Our Children
1. A Community Worth Having
The Shema begins with a call to the community, "Hear, O Israel," underscoring the importance of a supportive environment. In biblical times, households were large and included extended family and workers, creating a strong, accountable community.
Application
Parents must ensure their children are part of a spiritual community. At our church, we offer weekly programs for children and youth to help them grow in faith alongside peers who share their values.
2. A Standard Worth Achieving
Our children should aspire to love the Lord with all their heart, soul, mind, and strength. We need to raise our expectations and encourage them to honor God in all areas of life.
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Jewish children in biblical times memorized the first five books of the Bible by age 12. While this might seem daunting, it highlights the potential within our children if we set high standards and provide the right guidance.
3. A Faith Worth Sharing
Our children learn by watching us. We must model a genuine, Christ-centered life, showing them how to live out their faith in everyday situations.
Application
It's essential to demonstrate the fruits of the Spirit in our lives. When we make mistakes, we should own up to them and seek forgiveness, teaching our children humility and repentance.
Conclusion
Raising godly children in a messed-up world is challenging, but with God's guidance and the support of a strong community, we can equip our children to become faithful followers of Jesus. Let's commit to giving them the best gifts—the ones that truly matter. [U9pYu8vklgI] |