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| Name | Dealing With Irresponsibility |
| Video Uploader | Video From Bill Crawford, Ph.D. |
| Upload Date | This Video Uploaded At 16-11-2013 20:32:21 |
| Video Discription | "You never want to tie your responsibility to another's irresponsibility." - Bill Crawford, Ph.D. How often have you spent time worrying about whether someone else is doing the right thing, or handling their responsibilities appropriately? I'm not talking about dealing with a supervisee or situations where it is indeed your job to ensure that those under you make the correct decisions. I'm talking about dealing with family members, friends, or sometimes even strangers who are refusing to "step up to the plate," so to speak, and do what needs to be done. For many of us, these situations can trigger significant anxiety and frustration as we rack our brain trying to come up with ways to make this person act responsibly. Unfortunately, this rarely works because the "irresponsible person" interprets our cajoling as criticism, and often starts defending the very behavior we want them to change. This triggers even more frustration on our part, and we become caught in a cycle of stress and anxiety. If you have ever found yourself in this situation, I suggest you consider this week's quote as good information and choose to see the problem not as what someone is, or isn't doing, but instead consider that you may be tying your responsibility to another's irresponsibility. And it's not like we don't have enough to be responsible for. We are truly responsible for our thoughts, actions, how we see the world, how we interact with others, the quality of our work, and really, the quality of our life. It has been my experience that taking responsibility for all this is quite the undertaking, and when done properly (responsibly), consumes much of our focus, attention, and energy. If you are finding yourself exhausted much of the time, it could be because you are trying to be responsible for you and every one around you. Again, good information. Plus, when we back off, and give the other person the space to decide what they want to do, often they choose to do the "responsible thing," because now it's no longer a win/lose proposition. In other words, they can make a choice without it being about us being right and them being wrong. However. even if they don't, and something unfortunate happens, at least this has the potential to be seen as "good information" by the previously irresponsible party and lead to change. Sadly, sometimes people need to experience the consequences of an irresponsible decision in order to make more responsible decisions in the future. Regardless, however, at least now you will be taking responsibility for only those aspects of life for which you are truly responsible, which means having the ability to respond to life in a way that makes the statement you want to make about who you are and what you would teach to someone you love. Again, this is quite the task, and not a bad way to live, don't you think? [klQrrjcPm0I] |
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